It’s a fact that we live in a society where crying is considered a weakness. It’s a stereotype that men are not allowed to cry and when girls cry, it’s considered are they are spoilt.
What’s wrong with us is that, when someone shows his or her weakness by crying, we tend to take them for granted. We think that it’s okay to abuse or to ignore a person who is already hurt.
But, do you know that it’s perfectly fine to cry because that’s how we gain our mental strength back. As far as I know, we all cry. So you might have experienced that mental peace like the silence of the environment after a storm.
Crying is a sign of mental intelligence. When we cry we tend to realize our emotions, our sadness. So, this gives us the strength to face our feelings better.
Sometimes we need a good cry to release the stressed, tension feelings from our body. It’s totally fine to cry because we gonna be fine eventually.
The author of Emotional Processing, Roger Baker: Healing Through Feeling: The Professor of Clinical Psychology at Bournemouth University states that,
“Crying does help us process faster than if we don’t cry at all, but it’s not the only thing — it’s part of a package of expressing it. If your father died, your natural reaction would be to cry. You wouldn’t be able to get it out of your mind, you’d be discussing it a great deal, and you couldn’t work or do anything initially.
But gradually, the turmoil would subside. You’d reach a point where you could look at photos, and although you’d remember him, there would be no powerful emotional reaction. At that point, you could say it has been emotionally processed. But it’s not the passing of time that does that — it’s all the things you’ve done in between to help you to process it.”
Dr. Judith Orloff states that:
“Crying makes us feel better, even when a problem persists. In addition to physical detoxification, emotional tears heal the heart. You don’t want to hold tears back. Try to let go of outmoded, untrue, conceptions about crying. It is good to cry. It is healthy to cry. This helps to emotionally clear sadness and stress. Crying is also essential to resolve grief when waves of tears periodically come over us after we experience a loss. Tears help us process the loss so we can keep living with open hearts. Otherwise, we are set up for depression if we suppress these potent feelings. When a friend apologized for curling up in the fetal position on my floor, weeping, depressed over a failing romance, I told her, “Your tears blessed my floor. There is nothing to apologize for.”
